By Nkhensani Manabe

The conversation title "Pansexual, Gynasexual or Abrosexual? A dive into queerness, pleasure and sex positivity" gives one much to think about. Tiffany Kagure Mugo, author, educator and curator of HOLAAfrica, begins the discussion with a reading from Touch, a recently published collection of fiction and non-fiction essays on sex, sexuality and pleasure. In this excerpt, the author puts forward the idea that pleasure is constant and ongoing, it is to be found in everyday activities and is not confined to sexual intercourse.

This idea, that pleasure is as much a part of daily life as anything else, runs through the discussion, which also covers topics of desire, attraction and sexual orientation.

Early on, there is this sense of hope and possibility. Tiffany presents options and explains alternatives, giving us new language to speak about who we are, what we like, and how we want it. This is about desire and sex, but mostly it is about self-knowledge and empowerment. Tiffany speaks passionately about making decisions from a place of power: learning your own identity so that you are able to make the best choices for yourself. 

In a conversation that is open and free, representing the attitude that Tiffany would have us all adopt, we learn that knowledge about sex and sexuality is ever-changing, the boundaries are shifting. What we may have learned or, more importantly, been kept away from as children or adults is exactly where we should start unlearning and reprogramming. Tiffany notes that young people these days need tools to understand the experiences they are already having, a reminder to never underestimate what children and teenagers know about the kind of pleasure(s) they want to pursue in life.

The conversation opened my mind to something: knowing myself will help to build my confidence; I will be able to approach relationships with care not only for myself but for others, too. Learning the language of orientation, attraction, desire and pleasure will go towards deepening my future connections. I appreciated the space to think about this aspect of my life -- the private, intimate parts that I don’t access often. Tiffany’s enthusiasm about pleasure and identity pushed my own boundaries, allowing me to entertain new personal possibilities. 

The idea of learning how to make holistic connections is still not common. Largely, we live in a culture of instant and fleeting connections. There is hardly any time to truly reflect on how and why we are seeking relationship or partnership -- at least, not until a moment of crisis. 

Of course, there are selected spaces that welcome questions and discussions, such as the AWID Crear Résister Transform Festival and other free-thinking online platforms or publications -- but access to information from a helpful, non-judgemental source is something people are still trying to figure out. This may be in part because people are not confident in the language of sexuality and pleasure. 

The notion of language and tools repeats itself throughout Tiffany’s presentation. Tiffany and her colleagues are doing the work of talking, teaching and nurturing. Seeing what people need, where they are, what they want for themselves, and walking alongside them as they build their ideal worlds. Giving them new words and definitions to help give shape to their identities at different stages of their lives. 
These are the kinds of conversations that are necessary, even in a society that has myriad healthcare messages broadcast with varying degrees of details at any given moment. Sometimes people need to be brought back from the big picture moments and encouraged to learn about their individual opinions and desires. This is what Tiffany’s talk does: it gives people a space in the larger puzzle. 

A highlight of Tiffany’s talk was the section on the different types of attraction. 

Sexual -- as in, the express desire to have intercourse with a person or people
Sensual -- the desire to touch a person or people, to be physically close without necessarily including intercourse
Romantic -- the desire to date or be in a relationship with a person or people
Platonic -- the desire to build close friendships 
Aesthetic -- the desire to look at and be pleased by the appearance of a person or people

These five types or levels of attraction offer a shorthand for desire and pleasure, and help to contextualise the different kinds of pleasure people can experience. 

Thinking of attraction beyond the physical or sexual offers a new perspective on connection. It is a chance to take the pressure off relationships, which opens up opportunities for different, more enlightened and fulfilling partnerships. 

This freedom and knowledge that Tiffany presents is a roadmap to the future. The presentation offered a new perspective on what is possible. 

As the opening excerpt states, pleasure is ongoing. In light of Tiffany’s discussion, it is also clear that it is dynamic and exciting. There is always more to know. 

This may be daunting at first, but on the other side of hesitation is hope, potential and freedom. 

Mainstreaming The Invisible Feminist Realities

by Dr. Pragati Singh

In 2019, I was invited by the BBC to speak at the 100 women conference in Delhi, India, on the subject of ‘The future of love, relationships, and families.’ The audience seated in the large hall consisted mostly of young Indians- college students, professionals, activists etc (...)

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Comment un mouvement nait-il ?
des fantômes nous expulsent d’une maison, d’une famille ou d’une nation
on arrive éreintées dans un espace (parfois une vraie adresse) mais surtout dans un état d’être
précédées par une étoile déchue
notre arrivée n’est peut-être pas accompagnée par la fatigue,
mais bien par la peur
notre arrivée n’est peut-être pas accompagnée par la peur
mais bien par la colère
de problèmes qui se répètent en boucle :
un coup au cœur (entendez douleur sentimentale)
un coup dans le dos (entendez trahison)
des disparitions forcées
des corps condamnés par le mariage, la défiguration et la fatigue chronique
mais quand on arrive, on se rassemble, on chuchote, on parle et on pleure.
C’est comme ça que naissent nos mouvements lorsque l’on arrive l’une à l’autre
Nous devenons des graines,
C’est comme ça que naissent nos mouvements lorsque l’on se sème l’une l’autre
Devenant des fleurs, parfois juste des épines, parfois des fruits,
nous sommes nos oasis mutuelles
où nous chantons pour le combat
où nous préparons des remèdes
où nous déposons le visage de l’être aimé, la forme de son visage, le son de son rire
le secret qui transforme des silences en un langage
les instructions détaillées des sorcières
notre mouvement est : pour nous toutes
lorsque nous arrivons en tant que graines dans l’objectif de fleurir.

Sara AbuGhazal
www.badiya.blog

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Estamos comenzando un nuevo año: 2023. El COVID-19 continúa infectando y re infectando a muchas, muchas personas en todo el mundo. Estamos siendo testigos del resurgimiento de gobiernos de derecha y fascistas, incluso en lugares que quizás no esperábamos, como Suecia. La guerra, los conflictos armados y el aumento dramático de la militarización, el militarismo y el gasto militar están permitiendo la acumulación descomedida de capital por parte de unos pocos, con la participación de alianzas aparentemente "extrañas" que se arman, tanto de manera visible como invisible, donde las élites económicas y políticas del Norte y el Sur Global se están beneficiando más allá de nuestra imaginación más desenfrenada. Mientras tanto, nuestra gente y el medio ambiente natural pagan enormes costos y sufren todas las esperadas e inesperadas consecuencias.
 
Como todes ustedes y todes nosotres en AWID sabemos, les feministas en múltiples movimientos alrededor del mundo están resistiendo y organizándose contra las múltiples caras de la tiranía, creando estructuras alternativas, implementando estrategias de base y construyendo alianzas transnacionales. Estamos generando alegría, inspirándonos unes a otres, cantando y bailando dentro y en contra de la cultura predominante de muerte y cinismo que parece haber envuelto a gran parte del mundo.
 
Nosotres, el personal y la Junta Directiva de AWID, estamos más preparades e inspirades que nunca para enfrentar los desafíos, fortaleciendo nuestras relaciones con nuestra membresía y organizaciones socias, reuniéndonos y conociendo a quienes aún tenemos que conocer y hacer lo que hacemos mejor: apoyar a los movimientos feministas globales. Aunque nos entristeció la partida de nuestras queridas ex-co-eds Cindy y Hakima, nuestras maravillosas nuevas co-eds Faye e Inna, junto con el personal comprometido y creativo, han aprovechado el momento que encapsula tanto las oportunidades como las amenazas.

Sin duda, todes nosotres en AWID y toda la gente de nuestro movimiento lo sabemos… como escribió la poeta y activista caribeña estadounidense June Jordan a las mujeres activistas sudafricanas durante el apogeo del régimen del apartheid: “¡Somos quienes hemos estado esperando!”

As part of AWID’s Feminist Realities journey, we invite you to explore our newly launched Feminist Film Club: a collection of short and feature films selected by feminist curators and storytellers from around the world, including Jess X. Snow (Asia/Pacific), Gabrielle Tesfaye (Africa/African Diaspora), and Esra Ozban (South West Asia, North Africa). Alejandra Laprea is curating the Latin & Central American program, which we’ll launch in September during AWID’s Crear, Résister, Transform: A Festival for Feminist Movements. In the meantime, look out for announcements on special films screenings and conversations with filmmakers!